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Monday, December 30, 2013

On dating

n.b.
Found something perfect at the moment. Copied and posted from Tumblr.


Date a man who dreams

Date a man who dreams.
Date a man who doesn’t spend his money on drink, or clothes, or video games, but saves what he has to go on adventures and pursue his dreams. He might have problems dealing with everyday things but no-one sees the possibilities life holds like he does. This is a man who is ready for anything, who will drop everything on a moment’s notice to run away and get lost somewhere with you or show up unannounced to whisk you away on some crazy adventure. Date a man who sees the world in millions of colours, who has his head in the clouds and his feet on the ground.
Date a man who hasn’t got the money to spoil you or shower you with gifts but finds a way to do it anyway. You can trust that he’ll find a way to touch your heart and make you feel special in new ways. He knows that words and gifts aren’t what matters. Every time he gives you something or writes to you he is giving you a piece of his soul. And every time you give him something or write to him he will truly treasure it and understand the effort you put in to choosing the gift, the words, or even making it yourself.
Date a man who sees how amazing you are even if you don’t see it yourself, who sees how good things could be for you. Because a man like this who can see the end goal, the big picture, will keep on going because no obstacle can compare to what lies ahead. Date a man who believes in true love, in romance. He will dream up incredible fantasies that the two of you can bring to life together. He will take you places other people can’t even imagine. Date a man who believes in you, because he will help you believe as well. He will see echoes of you in every thing of beauty, and he sees beauty in everything. A man like this will always think you’re the most beautiful girl in the world and will always be there for you.
Date a man who reads books and comics, who watches films and cartoons, who laughs at stupid jokes and knows when to fall into a reverential silence and drink in the moment with you. You can just be yourself with him and he’ll just be himself. He’ll understand why you love the things you do and he’ll appreciate them and be interested in them too, even his own passions lie elsewhere. He understands your whims and desires, because he’s seen them acted out in his mind. And whatever the scenario, no matter how bad things get, he sees how the story ends. And because he sees how it ends, he knows that all tragedies are overcome, all villains vanquished and fears are banished, no matter how desperate the situation may appear. Better still, date a man who writes.
Date a man who can’t be pigeon holed into any one category, who can mingle in any crowd but doesn’t truly fit in any one scene. He’s an individual, a man who knows what it takes to stand out from the crowd and who doesn’t mind being judged or thought of as different. That’s why he will never judge you or make lazy assumptions about you. That’s why he will always see you as your own person, as a unique and wonderful individual.
Fail him. Let him down. Hurt him. He’ll do the same to you: but he knows that this is just how things go. He knows that life is made up of ups and downs. He will understand that when you lash out at him or push him away, there are many reasons why. Instead of getting mad or retaliating he’ll try and make things right. He knows when to apologise and admit to making mistakes. He’s also quick to forgive because he knows how easy it is to make mistakes. He understands that your flaws and vulnerabilities make you beautiful and strong.
He knows that perfect harmony doesn’t exist and that nothing is forever. He knows that you see this too: he sees beauty and freedom in this and wants to help you see it too. He knows fear and embraces it. He knows sadness. He knows his many flaws. He is prepared to adapt and to change because he respects your values and your opinions. He knows that nobody is perfect but that doesn’t stop him trying to do his best. He knows that love needs to be worked for, that relationships are a constant flow from love and laughter to arguments and conflict, that like all things the good times come with the bad and that the dancing and loving and laughing are worth the fighting. He wants you to be happy even if it means not being with you, but in his heart he believes that he can make you happy like nobody else and so will do anything to be with you.
Date a man who remembers every little thing about you, who is intuitive, who can see when you’re happy or sad, when you need cheering up or when you want to get away from it all or just forget everything for a while. He sees everything about you. He understands that you’ll be a different person from moment to moment, that you’ll change your mind and your mood without warning. He knows that you can switch between being a baller shot caller, a kawaii otaku, an artistic auteur or a femme fatale in the blink of an eye, an that they are all a part of who you are. He loves and pays attention to each and every aspect of your personality, from the girl who needs to be cuddled and cared for to the woman with her own needs and desires.
Date a man who fights to be in your life no matter what. A man who values you and believes he should be with you will only see that you are scared of how much this could mean for both of you. This kind of guy who will always be there for you when the times are tough, who is always looking out for you even when you’re not together or when you cannot see him. Date a man who will always believe you should be together: a man who will never give up on you no matter what. Date a man you’re scared to date, precisely because you cannot think of a reason you should be scared to be with him.
Date a man who knows that this isn’t about him, but about you: a man who loves you with his heart and soul. You deserve it.
Date a man who dreams. Who dreams about you.
Or better yet, date a man who lives his dreams.

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Endure. Endure. Endure.

Being wrapped up in something you know has not much relevance in your life is quite unpleasant. I don't mean I abhor what I'm doing. Its just that sometimes I cant help feeling unproductive, since I can't seem to see myself enjoying what I have been doing. I have felt unmotivated for quite some time now. Although I know and I am aware that this is very unhealthy. How can I be well - aligned to my work, when I am always feeling stressed, depressed just by the very thought of it. My only consolation I guess, is the thought that this too shall pass. It will all come to its glorious end. The end of which I don't know when, but it will. That's also the same thought and perspective I set my mind and spirit on whenever I feel down with life in general. You can not help being down. It's a known fact, anyway. Life is full of suffering. God didnt promised skies always blue, flower strewn pathways, all our lives through. But God has promised strength for the way, grace for the trials, help from above, unfailing sympathy, undying love. Thats a portion of a literary work of someone great, I dont remember the author, but it always lifts me up anytime. Reason of which I have it memorized. Thanks to him/her.

So, for the time being, I guess I just have to endure the monotony of my life doing the same thing I ought to do. Wishing no harm to anyone, but all peace, love and happiness. I need to endure this, for after all, I am not part of this world. I belong to Him. and Him alone. Let's endure this world.For a greater happiness awaits us.

Monday, May 13, 2013

My own foible.

i have this need to always be reminded of how different an individual I am. It just seems that I have always kept my eye on the surface impression of others on me. I must admit that I am quite annoyed with that trivial habit of mine. Though apparently I make it a point that I am not to become part of the non-substantial popular trend of this world. I adore that. Although of course there are exceptions, especially when my line of interests come in sight, that may somehow coincide with the rest of the flock, my age, beyond or under. Sometimes I just cannot help being guilty of comparing people, things and events. And generating unpleasant conclusions and opinions thereafter.

Admitting this flaw in my character might help me to be constantly aware of my thoughts of other people and myself. And prevent the unhealthy thoughts that comes with it, eventually. Let it just penetrate me for the moment, but I am not to let it conquer me. I believe change doesnt come overnight, but atleast I have come to realize that flaw, and I am resolving to myself to never feed it again. Be aware of the irrational judgments, conclusions and opinions that my imperfect mind creates and let it be washed away by prayers and good heavenly thoughts.

Thursday, May 2, 2013

Monsters

Let's name this monster. Green eyed monster. Eating me up to the bone, I cant keep my concentration straight. Jealousy.

Though I know I SHOULD NOT. I NEED NOT. Its unwarranted. Uncalled for. Unnecessary. Its beyond my borders. I've got no right to be.

Why am I feeling this again. Every time. I know Im overstepping the barriers of anonimity, if I would let this feelings harbor on the bayside of my emotions.

I, for him could mean not more than a stranger. A known stranger. We're strangers for quite a long time already. I know, I know I know. I am a coward, a sissy, a chicken. Call me all labels of weakness, but I can't just help it. I can't see myself entering that unknown territory. Therefore I stick to where my safety gauges are. I could not let myself dive and get drowned into something I've never been. Well, Im too afraid that I might not be able to save myself, or that no one might rescue me. And I know, Im talking in riddles again. Puzzling people of my abstract metaphors.

But really I must admit. Im jealous.

Friday, April 19, 2013

My ever changing mind

Perhaps it is true, women, when given choices and time, change their views and perspective, quite quickly than a thunderbolt.I did. Apparently in my case, or is it much appropriate to say that taking up Law was something I have to overthink, overanalyze and overponder about. Honestly I need not, it was never founding on me, that I did have an interest with the field. I might have been for a short while caught up and corrupted by the glitz, glamour, prestige and position that most legal advocates enjoy. But to say that I have a deep and profound reason for this exodus is to become a despised clown of myself. I never had a calling for this. So far I havent had.

I have to admit that I have been a pretender all this time. Proclaiming to everyone I know that I'll be taking up Law when I know in myself, there really is no flaming torch in me for such a noble ambition. I didnt even know how to properly answer a simple question why I want to be a lawyer? So, you see it's distressing to find the right words to articulately express yourself and impress the other, when all you have is a bunch of fabricated beautiful lies, you cannot substantiate, because it is not sincere. Gesture. Nothing but a waste of time to impress.

I have pondered on this. And finally I came to the conclusion that I can never get to the bottom of the ocean, when I always struggle on the shoreline. What I mean is, my goal has always been self discovery and I can not achieve it by thriving on a different direction. Just because of the promise of ephemeral worldly praise, prominent social status and the insignificant trivial things worshiped by ephemeral people, I have let myself get drifted away from my very purpose. I am not after the worldly rewards of this short lived life, I should not be under a human ideology, for I am under the blanket of Divine Love. Therefore my quest is not based on the standards of this critical world. It is beyond human comprehension.

Let me always be reminded that I am not to chase the wind. For it is and has always been brought to nothingness and vanity.